You’re right to question if people can stop feeling how they feel. And I agree that it’d be hard for people to take a choice they can’t see or wrap their head around. Having been in those scenarios I found that the only way around them was to accept how I felt or my inability to change things.
Things seemed to change when I did that. I changed. But because people don’t realize this option I wanted to write about it. It still isn’t foolproof though. After all, people would need to decide to read it, then be able to follow what I’m saying and then try it out. There’s a bunch of times I read something and didn’t use the advice until years later when enough stuff happened for me to get it.