You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Be in a Relationship

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There is a misconception when it comes to dating. People believe that they have to solve all their problems on their own before getting into a relationship. But what if that isn’t true?

When you have a physical injury, you can do all the therapy you want but the crucial point is actually putting weight on the knee, swinging the arm or rotating the neck. Only with physical activity, can you actually heal the injury.

When you failed a math test and you have to do a re-sit, it is natural and sensible to study the material again. But the test is where you really find out what you’re made of, away from the answer sheet and the textbook.

Similarly, it makes sense to sit out a few rounds of the dating game to catch your breath, take inventory of what you can and cannot do, what you want and do not want, and to learn to be more accepting of others. However, most of this information cannot really be known unless and until you get back into the game.

Take me for instance. There were certain things I thought would be awesome to have in a relationship but in reality, I had taken stuff I saw on television, found it entertaining and thought it’d be funny to have in my own relationship.

Some of those things were unrealistic, some were counterproductive and some were…