You Cannot Love Yourself but Here’s What You Can Do

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Perhaps the most important thing we can ever do for ourselves is to love and accept ourselves for who we are. A self-love deficit has never been shown to be beneficial to anyone. Not only will you put yourself in harmful situations, you will project your pain onto others.

But what do you have to do in order to love yourself?

I’ve explained how to do so in previous articles, listing to change the negative self-talk to positive, looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you love yourself and giving yourself the things you want.

I’ve done those things for myself and seen a change, so I would always advocate for those methods. But there’s more to this self-love stuff.

I’ll admit, it’s pretty difficult to love yourself if you despise who you are. You have to go against the notions you have about not being smart enough, attractive enough or good enough.

And yet, one would have to ask, “Who is doing the loving here?”

Because if you don’t love yourself, how can you love yourself? If you are a troublemaker, how can you keep yourself out of trouble? By definition you make trouble!

Alan Watts used to point out that people who seek spirituality to solve their issues aren’t capable of solving their issues…