You and Your Ex Were Very Similar

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I tend to write posts about something I learnt recently or something that I’ve known for some time but recently popped up in my life. Very rarely do I ever talk about the things that I am currently learning where the theory isn’t totally developed but is what I would consider food for thought.

I think I’m going to do this more often. The vulnerability makes me uncomfortable which might be a good thing and it helps to organize the thoughts when I share them.

Anyway, I have a tendency to look at patterns. Whether patterns in my life, among my friends or as the title suggests, in my past relationships. Sometimes, when I’m problem-solving, I might overdo it on the patterns. Then I take a break and come back hours later to see what makes sense.

This is a synopsis of what made sense.

I’ve noticed that when I look at the past relationships of my friends, it is easy to point out the traits that are common among them. People have been able to point out the similarities in my exes or situationships too.

So it appears that people can see this specific blind spot in the choices others make but they can’t see it for themselves. This must mean that unless one is of a high (or at least above average) level of self-awareness, they won’t be able to see it in themselves.