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Why You’re Always the One Who Gets Burnt in a Relationship
When it comes to romance, people who are the most giving get the most burnt if and only if they were giving in order to get.
When you do this, you blind yourself to the reality of the situation and who the person that you’re giving to actually is. And then when you get burnt, you wonder, “How could they??” But you had a role to play. You can’t play innocent because you were using them too.
It’s impossible to be truly gracious with no ulterior motive and get offended when people don’t show love back in the way you were giving it or in the way you feel it. Why?
Firstly, you understand that no one owes you anything. You aren’t going around thinking that you were cheated, slighted or tricked. You aren’t a victim because no one harmed you. Secondly, you understand that you don’t owe anyone anything. You just do what you do because you’re you. Third, when people don’t show love back, you learn that those people don’t really care about or don’t respond to your love. As a result, you keep it moving.
So, the only conclusion is to give love when we have the desire to do so. But geez, can we really just give love out willy-nilly like that? What if someone burns us?
Well, if the alternative is to try and find people to love us, and we already have…
