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Why You Fail at Connecting with People
“The need for connection and community is primal, as fundamental as the need for air, water, and food.” — Dean Ornish
Firstly, a demarcation needs to be made. Many of us will find our tribes easily enough, but some of us are “weird” and will have a harder time fitting in.
Right now, I’m not talking about “weird” people who will eventually find their other weirdos. As someone who didn’t really have a friend until third grade, I know what that’s like. This is about people who have their tribe nearby and completely fail at making and sustaining the link.
Maybe you’ve seen these people or you are that person, where no matter how hard you try to befriend people or how much you try to make a romantic connection, other people simply are not interested. Your gestures are taken for granted. You are taken for granted.
Maybe you did make a connection, but as time passes, the relationship eventually hits a wall. There’s potential to go further but for some weird reason, it just won’t. And maybe this has happened on numerous occasions. You’re left frustrated at what could be and finding it difficult to just leave this connection on dial-up when you want broadband.
