Why it didn’t work out

Maybe there’s something from the past you still haven’t addressed.

Maybe it’s the niggling feeling that warned you that it wasn’t going to work in the first place.

Maybe it’s you. Maybe it’s them.

Maybe the context or the situation isn’t conducive to what you desire. And while that sucks to have a desire for something that can never be, there’s still a lesson to be gleaned from it.

Maybe it’s not supposed to happen.

Maybe you’re dodging a bullet.

Maybe you’re saving someone from a bullet.

Maybe you don’t actually want that thing. Or maybe you do, but what you were pursuing isn’t the thing you desire, it just looks like it. Looks can be deceiving.

Maybe you can’t get it right now. You just have to be patient.

Maybe the pursuit of something keeps it away from you, so what you’ll have to do is stop chasing.

Maybe it’s societal pressure to attain this thing and deep down (or higher up), it was nothing but the desire of others. Sometimes we look to others to know who and what we should be, do or have.

Maybe you need to just embrace that it didn’t happen. There are things that you desired and received in the past, and there are things you didn’t. Consider the differences in these scenarios.

But what’s definitely not a maybe is the fact that there’s a reason it didn’t happen. And ultimately, the reason you’re upset is because you thought you found salvation of some sort and it didn’t materialize that way.

So instead of rueing the failure, realize that it was never going to be a success. Look at the things in your life that work — doesn’t matter if you think nothing’s working, because something is — and realize that those things were destined to be successes. You will see that there is a framework for why things work and why things don’t.

And then maybe we can all stop crying over milk that had to be spilt and be thankful for the milk that didn’t.



Former Edu. Psychologist | Current Writer | Constant Learner | “By your stumbling the world is perfected.”

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