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Why Do You Treat Others Better than You Treat Yourself?
Does this sound familiar? You are in a tumultuous relationship and you are often made to feel as though you are at fault. So what do you do?
You agree that something is wrong with you because, well, clearly something is, right? Look at the pain that you’re inflicting on this other person. Sure, you’re not totally sure that they’re right and you do feel the tendency to defend yourself. But at the end of the day, you’re going to give them the benefit of the doubt.
And you will do it until the day your threshold for pain is breached. Then you will pack up and leave and finally give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Are you right to leave? You’re not totally sure. But what you do know is giving them the benefit of the doubt hasn’t worked at all.
You may even remember other times you left and it worked out for you. You have history on your side. Weird how you never considered it before, but at least you remember it now. You’re willing to roll the dice because you’ve suffered enough. Now it’s time to leave.
And yet, you never really leave. Because you will find someone new and repeat this dynamic until once again the suffering is too much and you end that relationship.
Or how about this. You’re getting to know someone and you think they are incredible…
