When Being Comfortable is Out of Your Comfort Zone

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For the most part, we want good lives. We want to be safe, happy and relaxed. That’s why we put so much focus on science and technology to make our arduous tasks easier or automated and to solve problems.

However, if we were to observe our day to day lives, we might find something quite different. We, in fact, make life harder for ourselves and there’s a myriad of ways we do this.

For example, we play it safe. We are afraid to do what we want to do and so we simply don’t do it. We aren’t doing ourselves any favours by living like this, but we’d rather be safe than be comfortable.

Another example is that we want to be righteous. By being righteous, we can crap on everyone who doesn’t think like us and act like us. We aren’t doing ourselves any favours by living like this, but in your mind, the only way you can know that you’re worth anything is in comparison to others. But this has the opposite effect when people judge you — you start to feel bad.

Yet another (but somewhat similar) example is that we are afraid of being bad. We can’t bear the thought of being in the wrong or of making a mistake. So we constantly monitor, judge and shame ourselves for any possible thought, word or deed that could be interpreted as negative. We aren’t doing ourselves any favours by living like this…