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What Men Don’t Understand About Being Dominant
As I watch the battle of the sexes play out in heterosexual relationships, I feel it is imperative to try to appeal to the intelligence, experience and common sense to those on the battlefield.
As much as the title is directed at men, it is also directed at women. We’re getting far too lost in the sauce and have no idea what we really want. Too many people are saying too many things and using terms that have taken on too many definitions and are spoken of in too many contexts.
Allow me to offer some assistance when it comes to the argument on men being dominant in order to attract women.
When I was a kid and I liked a girl, I naturally assumed leadership in terms of showing a girl something cool, expressing how much I liked something she did or just being in close proximity to her.
On the first day of French class in seventh grade, a bunch of my classmates and I had to go to another classroom. I saw a girl, felt an attraction, felt the other dudes’ attraction to her, and made a beeline to the empty seat beside her.
Is that dominant behavior? Potentially, yes. Some might say it was more opportunistic, and herein lies the problem. Arguing what is and isn’t dominant is really down to semantics, which is a notoriously annoying type of argument.
