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What if Your Love Language is Abuse?
“I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.” ― Gary Chapman
If you’re over thirteen years old, you’ve probably heard about Gary Chapman and his book, “The Five Love Languages” in which he states that we all give and receive love in specific ways.
Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch are the five ways in which we either give love or desire to receive love by our loved ones, but typically our spouses and romantic partners.
As revolutionary a concept as this has been, it’s incomplete, and based on the title you already know what I’m about to say: People give and desire love by giving and desiring abuse.
I’m not talking about BDSM type of stuff. I’m talking about people who when they are abandoned, physically hurt, lied to and hurt in any other emotional way, they deem this to be love. I’m talking about people who do this to illustrate that they love someone.
I’m talking about a complete flip in what people consider to be actually loving. And what’s interesting about this is that most people who subscribe to giving and receiving this kind of love are completely unaware of it.
They would choose among the five love languages listed above, but lurking in the shadows is also the…
