What if you never get it right?

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For those committed to the path of self improvement, it’s a pretty noble thing to commit to. It means that your aim is to add to the good in the world and not try to create more negativity.

Another good thing about sticking to this path is that you get to live the life you want to live by removing or changing the things that are blocking you from what you want.

But an inevitable thing happens. When we enact what people recommend, and it doesn’t work, we beat ourselves up. We shame ourselves, whether consciously or unconsciously.

And when we do that we cling to the path of self improvement as we would a light bulb or a flame. It was enough that we flip the switch or hold the torch, but because we think the light led us down the wrong path, and all we got is this light, we grab hold of it and singe ourselves.

But what if the light didn’t lead us down the wrong path? What if the failure we’re experiencing is the path? And what if it isn’t exactly failure?

When I started down this self improvement road almost exactly a decade ago, it was because I “knew” something was off about me and I “knew” that there was no way I could achieve what I wanted in life. This feeling of knowing was evidenced by how I felt and the thoughts I had about myself.