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Wanting What You Cannot Have is Self-Abuse
Could you imagine a more exquisite type of torture? Can you think of a more pointless existence? Is there anything quite as asinine as wanting what you cannot have? Probably not, but I should probably explain what this phenomenon means.
Wanting what you cannot have is about being incompatible with a desire. It’s not a matter of working hard enough to get it. It’s not a deficiency in worth on one’s part. Rather, it is a mismatch of two elements.
You can try to combine a hydrogen atom and a helium atom just as you can try to make an actuary into an actor. It won’t work. Based on the structure of these things they cannot go together.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. “How can you say that an actuary can’t be an actor?! People are diverse and multi-faceted so you should never try to limit someone’s potential.”
I totally agree. But that’s where failing to know oneself comes into play and that is the primary reason people want what they cannot have.
If the acting actuary knows herself she would never listen to the voices that try to pigeonhole her. More limited minds would tell her to choose one or the other, and they may coerce her into being an actuary because it’s more “realistic.”
