Two Important Reminders When Making the First Move

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Making the first move is a dirty job but somebody’s got to do it.

When you feel the urge to connect with someone and strike up the nerve to do it, you’re almost always thankful when you do.

But when you don’t, you’re left wondering what could’ve been.

Research has shown that we erroneously assume that others aren’t interested in connecting and we underestimate how much pleasure we receive from simple interactions with others.

Some of us were bestowed with the gift of gab and have no issues talking to a complete stranger. But maybe the rest of us who have this problem bought into our parents’ warning to not talk to strangers.

Whatever the reason, the main culprit behind our reluctance to talk to that attractive person is fear.

But here are the two things to bear in mind that will help to make your conversations with strangers go smoothly.

1. Embrace whatever you’re feeling

Let’s break down the process into the Antecedent, Behavior and Consequences (or ABCs) of behavior.

The antecedent is that you’re at an event and you see someone that seems kind of cool. Your behavior is that you worry that something bad is going to happen and you…