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This is Why You Saw the Red Flag and Ignored It
“How do you know they aren’t the one? At the first sight of total disregard for your hurt, your gut will feel uneasy. I’m reminding you to listen up.” — Alfa Holden
I think the great irony of dating is that as you sit down for that first date or as soon as you talk for the first time, something inside of you knows the fate of the relationship.
You know exactly where this is going. You see the problems, the incompatibility and the trauma that they refuse to address. But you’re going for it anyway.
“Who knows? Maybe it’ll all work itself out,” you say.
But you said that the last time. And your friends say the same thing in their relationships that you can clearly see are doomed.
And I wish I could tell you there’s some complicated reason as to why we see the issues and go ahead with it. But there isn’t. It’s such a painfully simple answer but it is the bedrock of why we are obsessed with romance in the first place.
For the past five years, I read every single person I liked. And if I couldn’t read them, that made it all the more obvious that I should stay away. In retrospect, I’m stunned that I got it right to the extent that I did.
This isn’t some great talent that only I possess. Many of us can predict when or…
