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The Truth Will Never Ruin a Real Connection
Whenever we see someone we care about making a mistake, sometimes we are afraid to say something because we don’t want to hurt their feelings and we don’t want to risk the chance that they end the relationship.
When the crap eventually hits the fan, our friend, partner or family member may say, “Why didn’t you say something?” But they aren’t going to drop you if you speak your mind because they actually care about you and what you have to say.
They know that your words come from a place of sincere concern for their wellbeing. And while they may be angry at you for not speaking up sooner, they wouldn’t end the relationship because of that.
You have a real connection.
But here’s something interesting to consider. If you casually knew someone (meaning you don’t have much of a connection with them) and you saw something that could mess them up, you might not say anything at all because you aren’t connected to them. Their pain isn’t necessarily your pain. You may feel some empathy but it doesn’t matter that much.
This can be seen as a real issue in society because we often spot injustices but do nothing about them because it involves strangers. As if to say that a stranger isn’t worth defending.
