The Reason You Seek Self-Help is the Reason You Can’t Escape It

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In the second year of university a thought popped up into my mind. It said, “You will never get what you want in life.”

I bought it hook, line and sinker. I looked at who I was and agreed. I couldn’t see myself as a successful person. I had too many problems, no solutions (even as a psychology student) and was too afraid to be vulnerable to express my fear of being inadequate.

So when I stumbled on the Law of Attraction, I felt like my problems were solved. All I had to do was change what I focused on and thought about, and my life would be different.

It wasn’t.

So I tried harder, read more books and watched more videos. I experienced some small victories because there is power is shifting what you focus on, but the major changes I craved weren’t forthcoming.

I drove myself to frustration and mental breakdowns because I hated what was happening around me.

Here’s psychology in a nutshell: “what you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” The quote is attributed to Carl Jung and it explains why certain things in life never change.

In my situation, it explained why I changed from a relatively stable kid to a terrified student who thought he’d have to die if he couldn’t be…