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The Purpose of Life is not to be in a Relationship
There are two factors that can leave a sour taste in my mouth when it comes to relationships. First is consciously or unconsciously using someone to make yourself feel good. Second is the belief that you’re on this planet to get into a romantic relationship.
When anyone uses you to make themselves feel good, it hurts. But relationships are really just mirrors. If someone is using you, check with yourself. Did you get with this person because the ennui of not being spooned on a rainy night hurt? Did you get with this person because you just wanted to be wrapped in a blanket of love and then subsequently sexed to sleep? Did you get with this person because you want to escape a loneliness that has been around so long that it feels normal?
If the answer is yes, fair enough. I get that. But have you ever seen someone take someone else into their life in this way and it solves problems? Maybe for a while, but eventually, it turns to crap and causes more problems. Why? Because you technically were putting yourself first and you shacked up with someone who was guilty of the same thing.
You attract what you are.
Therefore, an easy way and possibly the only way I’ve found to avoid this is to look for someone you want to serve. That miraculously weeds out the charlatans and incompatible folk…
