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The Psychology of Why Opposites Attract
Perhaps one of the most obvious traits I have is that I’m an agreeable guy. I get along with most and if I don’t get along with someone, it is what it is. I just chalk it up to incompatibility and move along.
Years ago, I was talking to a colleague who pointed out that the reason certain types of people gravitate towards agreeable people is because those are the only types of people that can handle them.
As an agreeable person, I protested by saying that that wouldn’t be fair to agreeable types because why would the kindest people have to bear the burden of having to deal with people who can sometimes be the most obnoxious and arrogant?
Obviously disagreeable persons are never always obnoxious or arrogant. Agreeable persons aren’t always kind. But when life happens, character is revealed.
And despite assuming the role of grand poobah of agreeable people, I tend to find myself strongly attracted to women who are more disagreeable than me.
Naturally, I thought something was wrong with me. So I did the self-work, got feedback from others and tried dating girls I thought were nice only to find out that they were actually disagreeable too.
So I did what anyone else would do in that situation. I gave up. If I couldn’t curb this tide of women who could be…
