The Counterintuitive Benefit of Heartbreak

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People desperately avoid the end of a relationship even when they stand to benefit from its termination. People simply are not keen on ending how things are. There are benefits to it whether it is being comfortable or wanting to avoid being alone or escaping the current dating landscape.

But when it comes to heartbreak, it’s something one usually doesn’t see coming. Heartbreak can manifest as one of the partners falling out of love whether gradually or suddenly, someone cheating or getting stabbed with the “we need to talk” dagger.

However it may happen, we know how it feels. It’s a sinking feeling that radiates a similar kind of pain like when you stub your toe but it’s inside your stomach and spreads throughout your body like an earthquake tremor sends shockwaves through the mantle and crust. You feel like you’re going to die.

Then the tears start flowing and every song on the radio is talking about you and your failed relationship. You know the deal.

To get over it you might get under someone else, distract yourself with work or the lives of others, you embrace the pain you’re feeling and the breakup, or you don’t ever get over it and it lingers within your system for years to come.

But at some point you may say to yourself, “I don’t want a relationship anymore.”