Stop Hoping That They Will Change

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I am not someone who sees the inherent value in sex and romance as most others do.

Sex is the greatest physical ecstasy one could have but that simply means it’s all downhill from there. Not to say that you must now suffer. It’s just the pinnacle of sensation so where else is there to go?

It’s hard for me to feel motivated for pursue something that is a temporary high. I’m the type of person who would pursue it because of societal expectation.

With romantic relationships it’s somewhat similar. There’s an expectation to be in a relationship but over the years I’ve loved a number of women. But I could see that we probably wouldn’t get together because they mirrored something within me that would’ve prevented a relationship from happening.

I could see that something was off about them but because everything else was so great, I would want to wait or even try to change them until they became the person I thought they could be.

While it was true that some of these girls were doing the same to me, once I saw myself doing this, it was clear who the bad guy was. Anyone who looks at someone and tries to change them is not being loving. I was not being loving.

So even though I didn’t feel secure enough in the relationship to want commitment, I would still hang around…