So What if They Didn’t Love You?

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We get so caught up in whether or not someone likes us that we are completely blind to how simple attraction is.

Attraction is all about whether or not someone mirrors your values, whether physical or emotional. If they do, you will feel something for them. If they don’t, you won’t feel anything.

The part about attraction that is sometimes mystifying is why we value what we value.

If you and your crush are both into the same interests, you have fun together, they’re funny and have some physical traits that are considered contemporarily attractive, then attraction is almost a given.

But other times it isn’t so straightforward. Sometimes we are attracted to people in ways we would never imagine.

For example, we could like someone who is kind of nerdy and everyone agrees isn’t contemporarily attractive but they just rev your engine.

Or perhaps you’re into someone who gossips and is into drama and spills all the tea on damn near everyone.

One reason you may be into them is because they remind you of a parent or caregiver. And since they are the first love relationship you had in life, you subconsciously associated love with their behaviour traits, whether good or bad.