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Should You Tell Your Crush You Like Them?
On face value this seems ridiculous doesn’t it? Why wouldn’t you tell someone you like them? How else are they going to know how you feel? How else are you going to start a relationship?
People hate when they have to read people’s minds. Men complain about it all the time. Women are the ones who stereotypically do this but they are aware it isn’t fair.
So what gives?
I recently heard a guy tell his friend that he told a girl that he liked her but she ghosted him. The friend laughed and cautioned him that in the future, he should never tell a woman that he likes her.
Why you may ask? Because girls love the thrill of uncertainty. Moreover, if you tell her how you feel, that means she has you locked down. Now she will test the waters and see if she could secure an even more eligible guy.
So if you really like her, you can’t tell her how you feel.
Before I deconstruct this, let me give you the woman to woman version of why a woman shouldn’t tell a guy how she feels.
What it all boils down to is that a man should be a man. To put himself out there with vulnerability is not only attractive, it is necessary. Because if a man cannot tell someone how he feels, he’s immature.
