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Should You Date Someone with Potential?
You didn’t date someone to change him. You dated him because you wanted him for the way he was. Flaws and fears and all. — Jean Oram
Regardless of the age one is at in life, humans are always striving for more and motivated to be better in some way. As a result, we’re able to gauge other people’s progress in life. When this ties in with our attraction to others, the thought of being with them is sometimes a no-brainer; sometimes it’s not.
Whether their business is in its infancy, they just got out of a long-term relationship, they have a habit they want to break, or they’ve just started to see life through a new perspective, you wonder if getting to know this person is going to be a waste of time or the best investment since Apple stock.
You can see this possibly working out, but will it?
Should you date someone with potential? The short answer is no, but it’s important you get why the answer is no and the intricacies behind why you should (or should not) date a particular person.
1. Wishful thinking
We like to see the best in others. We want to give people the benefit of the doubt. But giving someone the benefit of the doubt means that you saw a red flag that you are choosing to ignore. The red flag is still there and the behavior will show itself…
