Relationships Can Be Easier If You Understand This

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I’ve often written that the decision to love rather than the feeling to love your partner is the most important thing to learn in romance. You cannot rely on sexual attraction to propel the relationship into something that people will emulate and envy.

Sexual attraction is only one important factor, but here’s the thing. No matter how sexy your partner is or how sexy they find you, it won’t matter much unless there’s trust.

Okay, I kind of lied. The truth is that most people will torch various aspects of their lives and even themselves for someone they find attractive. You’ve done it. I’ve done it. It’s wildly embarrassing.

But when we eventually come to our senses we remember that no matter how attractive our partner is, if there is a lack of trust, the end is nigh. It’s only a matter of time that the attraction wears off and the ugliness of distrust changes how we perceive them.

There is a psychological phenomenon called the halo effect where people who look attractive are assumed to be good people. If you want to read more about it, you can do so here. But with the explanation I just provided, you can see the dangers that people you find attractive can pose to your life.

As dramatic as that may have sounded, so many of us can attest to being taken for a…