Please Don’t Tell Me Love is Enough

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Patty Smyth and Don Henley sang an iconic duet titled “Sometimes Love Ain’t Enough.” The chorus houses a notion that many of us often want to ignore:

But there’s a danger in loving somebody too much/And it’s sad when you know it’s your heart you can’t trust/There’s a reason why people don’t stay where they are/Baby sometimes love just ain’t enough.

One might ask if it’s even possible to love someone too much. To be honest, if we’re strictly speaking about love and not an emotion that is masquerading as love like infatuation, lust or limerence, then no.

However, there is a context where one’s love for someone can cloud their judgment.

Let’s consider a couple who are kindred spirits, meaning that both people share many of the same values, interests and lifestyle choices. After years of enjoying each other’s company and being there for one another, it could be easy for each to say that they love each other.

Seems like a no brainer, doesn’t it? Their actions and their connection demonstrate love to each other and to those who observe them.

But what if one of those people in the relationship is a cheater? What if they simply cannot keep their hand out of the cookie jar? They truly love their partner but they simply cannot remain faithful.