People Think They Have to be Mean or Sweet to Be in Relationships

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The world is rife with manipulation. People genuinely believe that they cannot get what they want because they lived and learned that people are not interested in meeting the needs of others.

If you examine this belief you could find proof for and against it.

For instance, people change their personalities in order to curry favor from the people they want something from — and it works. But on the other hand, if you genuinely want to give love because you’re a loving person, your words and actions come from a genuine place; and as a result, people would like you.

Unfortunately, humans have been stereotyped as selfish to such an extent that it is believed that no one can ever be selfless. I think what we should strive for is taking our best interest first and then incorporate others who would also benefit at getting their best interests met.

So in other words, you scratch my back and I scratch yours. We genuinely need each other because we cannot scratch our own backs. We need others to fulfill our desires, so why not work with the people who want the same things as us? It’s the only sensible option.

But because we continue to harbor the thought that people are selfish or foolish (completely forgetting that that would mean that you’re…