People Share Encouraging Signs of a First Date

We are often warned about the red flags when on a date but it’s also good to know what to look out for at the beginning of a potential relationship. Here are some awesome stuff to look for when on a first date.

Genuine interest is always a green flag. It’s very hard to fake and is one of the strongest indicators that the other person is engaged.

Great conversation is a hallmark of compatibility. If something is lacking in this department, there could be a deeper issue with the two of you.

While I would definitely agree that the posture one has on a date can be an encouraging sign, this point made me think that people might just do it to secure your approval. After all, some people do this for job interviews.

Nevertheless, it is a good sign but if it is supplemented with these other points such as the conversation being free-flowing, for example, then you’re good.

This is an excellent clue on how the other person views you. Instead of the superficial, they burrowed more into the core of you and like what they see. To be fair, some people aren’t that good with words and may be feeling it but don’t know how to express it.

The commenter then went further into relationships, saying:

I couldn’t agree more.

Finding people with the same type of humor as you is like finding your tribe. I’ve also found that it is very likely that you’ll hit it off with their friends and they’ll like your friends too.

Doesn’t hurt being a gentleman. Speaking more generally, the urge to hook up will always be present when two people are attracted to each other, but the ability to place that as secondary is quite impressive, if not unusual these days.

I understand the sentiment here, but I disagree. Sometimes you don’t hit it off immediately. Sometimes there’s a missed connection. However, I believe that if there is truly a link, it will be found. Take this next comment, for example:

The final comment I will share is an interesting one. There’s a gentlemanly aspect to this but there is another part that, in my opinion, can be viewed as a good sign and a bad sign.

While I appreciate the chivalry here, there is a deeper point of familiarity that is being made. Because she had a good role model in her grandfather she chose another person who had those positive traits.

Unfortunately, some of us have negative role models which causes us to also unconsciously seek and stick to people who have similar traits. This can be tricky to watch out for because we will possibly have an attraction to negative traits simply because they are familiar.

The best advice I could give here is to look for the green flags but to notice a negative act when it happens. If you spot it, keep it in memory and see if it comes up again. Dating is supposed to be fun but sometimes you need to play it safe.

People have an incentive to be on their best behaviors when with someone new, so be vigilant, ask questions but remember dating is about getting to know someone. Definitely have fun but observe what’s going on too.

Former Edu. Psychologist | Current Writer | Constant Learner | “By your stumbling the world is perfected.”

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