My Problem with the Red Pill’s Stance on Relationships

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I recently came across one of the major books behind the red pill community. Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male is damn near required reading for a red pill neophyte. Many men say it changed their lives.

Within the book, Tomassi has nine “iron rules” for men to abide by as they navigate the dating world.

One of the rules, iron rule 6, seems central to the red pill ideology. It states that, “Women are fundamentally incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved by a woman. Men believe that love matters for the sake of it. Women love opportunistically.”

Tomassi states that this rule is a bitter pill to swallow because the notion that we have been inculcated to believe is that women are the romantics when the reality is that it is men who are the real romantics as they wine, dine and woo women.

Indeed, the red pill itself is a bitter pill to swallow.

There is no shortage of articles slating the red pill community on Reddit for their misogynistic, sexist and even homophobic and transphobic content.

But in my opinion, to see the red pill community in this black and white way is to give into the same black and white thinking that red-pillers themselves are guilty of.