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Most People Don’t (Really) Want a Relationship
I remember the first time I learnt what a utopia was. I was a teenager when I read the word in tenth grade literature class. I believed that humanity’s only goal was to head in the direction of a perfect world.
Moreover, I couldn’t understand why people believed that a utopia was an unachievable goal. I thought they were just being pessimistic.
Then I got older and I understood what people wiser than I were saying. I also learnt about the political ideologies that promised a perfect world. But when these ideologies were put into practice, they actually created hell on earth.
The truth is, people are trying to create a utopia every single day in the arms and with the genitals of someone else.
You meet someone and think they’re amazing. They think you’re amazing too. You sleep together. Again, amazing. You decide to be together and for a while it’s pretty amazing.
And then it’s not. Actually, it’s hell on earth.
You do this maybe a dozen more times, maybe more. But you’ll keep doing it because you haven’t figured out that you are using another person to achieve stability, pleasure, love and affection for yourself.
Yes, of course you are trying to create this same utopia for your partner. But here’s the irony…
