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Modern Dating vs Traditional Gender Roles
If you don’t ask then you won’t know, right? So that’s what I did.
I asked some women what they think men want in a romantic relationship and then I asked some men what they think women want in a romantic relationship.
I’ll start with the men since those answers were not as nuanced and many of them said the same things. Maybe you can even predict what they said.
The overwhelming response was that women want men who are jerks, with the caveat being that it cannot go as far as abuse. Some were reluctant to go into detail about what it means to be a jerk but what it came down to was self-interest.
They said that women wanted men who take care of themselves and get money, but they noted that being nice and kind didn’t get them very far. As a result, they resorted to being more selfish and self-interested. That worked.
There was a small cohort of men who said that they believed that women wanted to be respected, loved, listened to and protected. When asked if they experienced this to be true, the answers varied.
Women’s responses were more nuanced.
Some said that men wanted the same things women wanted. Others said that they had no idea what men wanted. Others said a big butt. And then there was a group who said that men…
