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Love is What You Do When Love is the Last Thing You Want to Do
“If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy… Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” — Bob Marley
I’ve had many opportunities to show that I understood this quote. Sometimes I pass, sometimes I don’t. But without question, the hardest times to show love is when the person you love touches a sore spot in you.
It’s one thing when a stranger does it. They aren’t a part of you and you aren’t a part of them. You might be offended but they owe you nothing. You let it go. But when someone you love triggers you, it feels like they did it on purpose even if it’s the first time they did it.
You react, and it just so happens that you flawlessly trigger them in return. It’s amazing when people are the perfect match for irritating one another. It’s uncanny how often it happens.
Now what was once a peaceful existence is a painful one. This love relationship is on standby but it’s not over. Eventually, someone cools down first and administers love to the other. Then the healing can begin.
I don’t believe relationships are necessarily about giving love to another person. Relationships are about…
