Love is Not a Reward for Good Behavior

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Your relationship with your parents went one of two ways.

They either accepted you for who you were, whether or not you did what they wanted you to do; or they rejected you or tried to change you when you failed to do what they wanted you to do.

If they rejected you and then you did what they wanted, you were fine. But you could never really feel secure to express what…