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Love is a Lot Like Forgiveness
“Love’s voice reverberates with forgiveness across the room of our heart.” — Munia Khan
What if the true test of love is being hurt by someone and then loving them anyway? To one mind, this thought is absolutely terrifying. The prospect of being vulnerable around someone who hurt you is too big a fear to even consider. To another mind (who probably had done wrong and was given a second chance), this is the only thing that makes sense.
I’ve learnt that everyone is going to hurt you, and it’s virtually one hundred percent not on purpose. People cannot help who they are. People are not you. Your standards and values may overlap with others but there will come a time when you see a contrast you don’t like, because all people are guilty of two things:
1. Acting in their best interest
2. Acting out their traumas
There is no exception to this, but what are the implications?
Firstly, the things you’ve done either in your best interest or unconsciously done due to past pains seemed perfectly legitimate to you, but could’ve damaged someone you care(d) about. Secondly, the reverse is true. Your anger towards someone was caused by someone being who they are.
