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Jealous of Other People’s Success? Here’s What You Should Do.
Being jealous is never a welcome feeling, but maybe the only thing worse is acknowledging the truth that you are in fact jealous. It introduces shame into the mix.
You berate yourself as only a stern disciplinarian would. It doesn’t help whatsoever, but the same judgment you reserve for others is now being served to you, by you. It is truly humiliating.
But once you’re done feeling sorry for yourself, the better times come. Now you can do something about it.
I can remember feeling this way as a preteen and wondering why I wasn’t as good as others. At the time, I was convinced that I was insignificant. I’m not sure where I got that idea from but it was a looming specter whenever someone did something that I couldn’t.
I failed to look at what I had in terms of talent and instead chose to gaze at what I lacked. It’s a pretty nasty habit to pick up but it stems from a poor self-image. Everyone has something that they’re good at and it makes them perfect to fulfill certain roles in life.
When you’re looking over your shoulder at someone who does something that you can’t and they’re doing the same thing back at you, no one is taking the opportunity to strengthen their talents and providing maximum value for the human race.
