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Is Love Really an Action?
When you look up “love” in a dictionary, you will first see the definition of the noun form and then the definition of the verb form.
Love as a noun means deep affection while love as a verb means to feel and/or to give deep affection.
So, I guess that’s that. Love is an action after all, right?
Yes, it definitely is. But I would be remiss not to mention an issue that has become more glaring the more I pay attention to its existence.
Abusers are well aware that love is an action and they will use that to get into the lives of those who just want happy, healthy love.
When we talk about love being an action, we do so because we used to largely associate love with the feelings and emotion of love — the noun form of love.
But then we wised up. We realized that just because someone has deep feelings for us doesn’t mean much if they don’t back it up with the requisite actions.
In order to feel loved, we needed to see it demonstrated. Words are cheap but actions speak a thousand words.
In realizing this, a lot of us were able to walk away from people who probably cared but either not enough to show it or had their own demons battling inside, possibly stemming from an insecure attachment style.
