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Is it me or did everyone end a long term relationship this year?
Whether you ended a serious romantic relationship, friendship, kinship or business partnership, it seems that a ton of people I know were keen on ending certain bonds this year. I know I had to do it a few times this year for three of the four relationships I listed.
I can say without a doubt, I have never felt more uncertain about my relationships than I did this year. And while I can’t go into detail about every single thing, I can at least take heart that I wasn’t completely blindsided.
People show you who they are. I know for me I wouldn’t leave a relationship just because of one incident. It’s the repeat offenders or toxic environments that force me to retreat as I cough up blood.
It’s the floor caving out from beneath your feet. You learn for certain that your relationships are your world. It is the most important part of life. They can make you or break you.
You remember your boundaries and values. You realise you had allowed certain behaviours and trends in your life that you were never comfortable with, but you could put up with it. There was some incentive, namely, you get to keep the peace. And sometimes peace is expensive, but worth it.
But naturally, when the peace gets threatened to the point where you’re bankrupt, you…
