If You Take the Step, the Path Appears
Faith is often talked about in a religious sense, but we take leaps of faith every day.
When you go to a fast food place, you trust that the food was prepared well. If you didn’t think it was, you wouldn’t eat it.
A team of people built your home, but if you didn’t trust them, you’d get rid of them and do it yourself.
You trust doctors, law enforcement, teachers, regulatory bodies, the list goes on and on. There’s an unspoken reliance on one another to do what we said we were going to do. And while we have examples of people cutting corners in various industries and sectors, if we all were to do this, we would all be in grave danger.
But when it comes to our own lives, we are guilty of cutting corners and taking liberties on ourselves too. Is it any wonder that we do this to strangers?
We skip that last rep in our workout routine, we eat that bit of cake that we really didn’t need, we tell ourselves something to make ourselves feel better and we put pressure on ourselves when our bodies and minds are slowing down due to fatigue.
We don’t necessarily do this to ourselves because we hate ourselves. Sometimes we do it because we seek pleasure. But it just so happens that when we siphon more and more from ourselves, things become unbalanced and we find ourselves in danger.
It could be in health, finances or our relationships. Whatever the case may be, because we kept cutting corners for our own benefit, we now have imbalance, pain and suffering to deal with.
It is in these situations that we feel the most powerless. Our pleasure has run out and we don’t know how else to operate because we’ve been operating in the same way for such a long time. Not to mention that it seemed as if we were being rewarded and there were no consequences.
Nevertheless, we’re lost and so we seek council from those who’ve been where we are now. The advice may scare us or energize us, but we see more and more people giving the same advice. We cannot deny that we have a solution that we can at least try.
And yet, we don’t do it. We’re scared.
We could leave our job that is causing us pain, but what about the money? We could leave our dead relationships, but what about the pain that we would cause the other person or ourselves by ending a source of support? We could stop our self-destructive habits of negative self-talk or lack of exercise, but we don’t want to feel the pain of change. We could go to a therapist, but what if I lose a part of myself that I define myself by?
In each of these examples, we fear the unknown. Or more specifically, we fear what we think will happen in the unknown. After all, we could assume great things in the unknown and we’d move straightforward. We could not assume anything and move forward too.
But it is because we project fear into what we don’t know (due to the fearful brains we’ve inherited from our ancestors) that we assume the worst.
I’m here to tell you to take the step, because if you don’t, things will only stay the same.
If you’ve been doing the same thing and expecting change for weeks or months and it hasn’t happened, you can continue to wait for change but the only change will be things getting worse.
I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t experience this myself.
But if you take the step, even without seeing the step, the step shows up. It is almost as if because you took the step, life presupposes that a path must be there and it shows itself. And if you don’t take the step, well it must be because there isn’t one. And so you will never see it.
Even if you see others take the step you’re afraid to take and the path lights up for them and they move ahead, you may question if the path will show itself for you. “Just because the path showed up for them doesn’t mean it will show itself for me!”
Please realize the arrogance in this. It supposes that you are special and different. You are not. Life treats everyone the same, and besides, under what circumstances or factors would life take into account to screw someone over?
Maybe you agree that the only way that life will change in your favor is if you take the step. But the problem is that the fear is too strong. The emotion blocks you from doing what you want. What is the solution there?
The solution is to feel the fear but not believe what it says. Just as when someone is telling you a lie and you nod your head because you know you don’t need to fight them because you know the truth, it is the same here.
Let’s face it. If fear wasn’t a factor, we would do what we want to do. The absence of fear does not mean the absence of common sense or logic. We do not need to fear the grizzly bear because we know the danger of it so we stay away from it. Fear of the bear might actually cause you to self-sabotage by screaming when a cooler head would prevail. The feeling of aversion is sufficient.
It is the same here. Fear is a factor in our lives but if we resist it, it will persist. Then we will stay stuck in fear and stuck in our situation.
But if we allow ourselves to feel it, the feeling of fear fades. Then we can act and do what we need to do.
These types of decisions are often labelled life-changing because that is what they literally do. And now you have the skills to do it.
A new path will cause you to learn more and to adapt to new environments, whether external or internal, but the growth and health is incredible.
I wouldn’t say this if I didn’t experience this myself.