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I Wish I Asked Myself This Question After Meeting Someone New
When you first meet someone, there are ton of unconscious mental processes that are running in your brain.
Some of these processes could return an attraction to this new person and they may feel the same towards you.
As a result, someone proposes a date.
If you’ve ever had a bad relationship, your hindsight illustrates that they were always a bad match. Is it confirmation bias? Maybe to some extent, but you can’t argue with the result. The relationship didn’t work out and there are reasons for that.
The next time you date, you will obviously want to get it right. So you’ll look out for certain traits and behaviors.
But there’s something that I wished I asked myself after I first met someone or after going out with them: Does this person love themselves?
It’s such a simple question but the depth of knowledge within it is staggering.
Firstly, it’s pretty difficult (if not impossible) to love others if you don’t love yourself. The people who are still defending the notion that you can love others without loving yourself are often people who destroy relationships when they see something in someone that they do not like.
