I Used to Be Proud I Had No Enemies

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It’s natural to want to be liked. Human beings form relationships, families, communities and societies because of the internal drive to be in communion.

But as positive as that drive to be may be, too much of a good thing can be detrimental. There are times when unity makes sense and is beneficial, and there are times when separation is also sensible and positive.

When you look at a people-pleaser, their deal is to be as un-offensive as possible. In their mind, this is a very positive thing. They may even support this by saying that they just want to be the change they want to see in the world. They’re setting an example for people who are selfish, belligerent and cruel.

While there is virtue in that, what would such a person do in the face of a hate crime? What would they do when they see abuse? What would they do when they spot injustice?

They might think that they would stand up for what is right, but they might not. I have my doubts because I and some of my friends have observed things we were against and we’re as pleasant as peach cobbler.

One has to understand that if you stand for something, you are an enemy to its opposite. For example, I made a commitment a long time ago to seek and spread truth. As a result, this caused me to question religion, society, government and…