I definitely get the points you’ve raised. With regards to the relationship going back to friendship if things didn’t work out, if someone is unable to do that I think it’s because the friendship was already gone the moment deeper feelings came up. Whether it was requited or not, friendship takes two and if both aren’t on the same page then it couldn’t happen anymore. So that was an oversight on my part. I didn’t address that.
But yeah I guess I’m willing to risk friendship because if a new depth (so to speak) has opened up, I’m game to at least discussing where it goes, whether I’m the one who initiated it or not. We all rely on our friends but I don’t think that removes the inclination to challenge the dimensions of the relationship. I’ve done it before and every time it was done it was necessary in order to know exactly what we were.