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How to Stop Searching for Love
When one begins their search for a partner or spouse, there is a dual purpose behind it. Firstly, they want to have the experience of being loved by someone they like. Secondly, they want to never search for a partner or spouse ever again.
This second reason is a bit strange when it comes to love. If you love basketball, do you want the experience of playing the game and also to never have to look for new opponents to play against or new teammates to play with? If you love gardening, do you want the experience of planting flowers and removing weeds and simultaneously want to never touch a trough ever again?
If you love your friends, do you want the experience of making their acquaintance, sharing similarities, respecting and celebrating the differences only to then never want to make any more friends ever again?
That’s pretty strange, isn’t it?
One might say that a romantic relationship is different than basketball, gardening or friendship. Romance is about being with someone who loves you. It’s painful to have that person and then lose them, only to begin the search yet again.
But isn’t it painful to lose a friend? Isn’t it painful when winter comes and you can’t plant anything? Isn’t it painful when your game gets cut short because of rain or injury? And yet, you accept it. You know that…
