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How to Step Out of Your Drama
Often when we talk about drama, we’re talking about negative things that happen to us and others. Drama is synonymous with conflict, but perhaps an even more fundamental word is aversion.
But I challenge you to go even deeper with me. While we consider drama to be solely about things we don’t like or want, drama also includes the opposite side of the coin — what we like and chase. And here’s the kicker, you can’t have drama without aversion and desire just like you can’t have a coin without heads and tails.
Basically, even though we talk about drama as things we don’t want, drama also includes the things we do want. Think about it. A show with only conflict isn’t drama, it’s just a nightmare or a tragedy. Like any good network drama, you need push and pull, give and take, defeat and victory. Otherwise, people wouldn’t tune in.
Having said that, one then realizes that if one doesn’t want any more drama, that would mean two things. One, they would have to stop resenting things that happen to them that they do not want. Two, they would have to stop chasing things that they want. Why? Because the two feed each other in what is perhaps the most perfect symbiotic relationship ever.
It begins with desire. Desire is natural. We want to enjoy our lives and we want to feel good. The mistake we make is when we cling and become…
