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How to Love Others
You’ve probably heard before that to love others you must first love yourself. That’s all fine and good, but there’s another facet to loving other people that we overlook.
Humans have a tendency to question if they should love another person; they wonder if someone else deserves their love. They look at the other person from head to toe, they use their intuition to look beyond the surface to find a deeper truth and they stereotype people who remind them of people they met in the past.
We also have a tendency to withdraw love when someone we loved does something we absolutely detest or if they stop being predictable in ways that benefit us.
Is it any wonder people feel lonely in life? Is it any wonder that people question if love exists? It’s often a very conditional thing, which implies that if for some reason you can’t do the things someone wants you to do, there will be no more love to give.
Personally, I don’t think conditional love is that bad. Sure, unconditional love is quite amazing. To be loved no matter what is amazing. However, when it comes to conditional love there will be times when someone does something that will annoy, anger or depress you. But if you are able to allow yourself to feel it, let it go and then resume loving them, that is pretty powerful.
