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How to Decide Who Your Next Significant Other will Be
When people say that they’re tired of people playing games, what they mean is that the dating game (at least in the western world) is about one person playing hard to get and the other person doing any gesture they can think of to garner their attention.
But you probably knew that.
What you may not know is that as much as people complain about the games other people play, the truth is that we all play games.
But we don’t play the same game.
For example, you could meet someone who loves sex. Sexual gratification is the main focus of their romantic relationships.
If you were to get with this person, they may cheat because getting sex from anywhere that is offering it may take precedent over maintaining their promise to be monogamous.
Another example is the person who plays the polyamorous game. They want to love and have sexual relationships with more than one person and they’re up-front and honest about it.
Yet another example is the person who unconsciously likes someone (or a certain type of person) and everyone can see it but them.
They will talk about what they want and may even try to date the people they say they want, but ultimately they are compulsively drawn to a…
