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How to Cut Your Attachment to Someone
Breakups can be difficult. That’s why many people demand closure. Closure, in this context, is all about receiving a “good” explanation as to why things had to end.
The person who is breaking things off never needs closure because they have all the reasons for wanting to end things. It is the person on the receiving end who has to make sense of the relationship’s conclusion.
They will come up with all sorts of theories and explanations to justify why their love interest decided to call things off. And sometimes one of these theories or explanation are totally believed. But sometimes that still isn’t enough to warrant the feeling of closure.
So you go straight to the horse so that you can get the answer from their mouth and an interesting thing happens. Whether they tell you the truth or not, it still doesn’t matter. It could be a selfish reason or a benevolent one. They don’t want to be with you anymore and you still feel incomplete.
Are you doomed to this state? Are you going to be one of those persons who just never get over a breakup? Is a personal resolution for you too much to ask?
The reason you feel unsettled is not because you want closure. To be frank, you’ve already gotten it. You just cannot accept it. Or you can accept it but it doesn’t change how you feel.
