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How “Opposites Attract” is Silently Ruining Your Relationships
Here’s a painfully obvious statement about relationships: you either need to be with someone who knows how to be a good partner or is willing to become one.
Here’s an equally obvious statement that is maybe even more painful: you need to be someone who knows how to be a good partner or you need to become one.
They say opposites attract, so it could be that someone who knows what they’re doing in a relationship and is willing to add to their expertise could attract someone who is pretty ignorant on the theory and the practical.
We see this “opposites attract” dynamic with the codependent and narcissist, masculine and feminine, the extrovert and the introvert, and also with the teacher and the student. But while two of these dynamics are neutral and one is pejorative, the student and teacher is (to an extent) inappropriate in the context of romance.
It’s perfectly okay to show someone the ropes if they are willing to learn but a student will not be able to fulfill the needs of someone more experienced.
Starting a romance with someone who is too inexperienced might be a lot like befriending someone who has never had a friend, never been a friend, has never learnt how to be a friend, has had negative friendships, etc.
