How Men Erroneously Protect Themselves in Dating

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Sometimes it’s good to see and hear how other people are living and what they have to say about life. I recently listened to some red-pill leaning discourses and it caused my brain to feel very agitated. So much of the beliefs and conversations were fear-based.

Here are some examples:

If you don’t show a girl who’s boss, she’ll walk all over you.

Or maybe you could just end the relationship if she tries to hit you with power plays.

If you don’t get a submissive, compliant woman, she’ll try to control you and the relationship.

Or maybe you’re afraid of losing control of the relationship and her, and you’re just projecting.

If you don’t make a certain amount of money, the woman will (eventually) leave you for someone who is a better provider.

But why would you want to be in a relationship where your worth is determined by what you can do? Wouldn’t it make more sense to be with someone based on who you are as a person and to be with someone who genuinely values who you are?

Let’s get into more nuance.

Do I think that some (perhaps many) women would end a relationship with a guy who doesn’t make more money than them? Yes, I do. But since everything in this world…