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How Honesty Keeps You Safe from Bad Romances
This is going to take some patience. This is going to require that you pay keen attention to how you feel within and the thoughts that pop up in your mind, but it is my strong recommendation that you at least try this.
When we meet someone new that we’re attracted to, it is extremely easy to fall for them. But pay close attention to the word “fall.” Consider what that means.
Falling is involuntary. Falling is unwanted. Falling usually results in something getting hurt or damaged. However, “falling in love” is seen as a good thing. In a way it kind of is, but anyone who has ever been in a relationship will tell you that this is merely the honeymoon phase of the relationship. This cannot last.
You’re not seeing the person for who they really are. You’re focusing on all the positive attributes and downplaying or ignoring the negative ones. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t seeing them and that doesn’t mean that you don’t remember them.
Because when the honeymoon phase is over and we see the ugly side come out (and they see our ugly side come out), all of a sudden we can remember all the negative things they said or did. We can recall in crystal clear 4K imaging and surround sound all the things that made our brain and gut stop dead in their tracks.
