Hookup Culture is Not Going to Improve Your Love Life

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I keep crunching the numbers of everyone I know who does this non-committal, polyamorous type of relationship but I don’t see them any happier than monogamous folk.

But before I get too ahead of myself, let’s break down why people are taking this route in the first place.

If you’ve been in a few relationships you may have noticed a hilarious but annoying fact: the very things you like about someone will eventually become the very things that annoy you the most.

For example, you may like someone who is naïve because it is cute and innocent but the flipside to that is they can be easily taken advantage of by anyone.

Another example is that you love how sexually liberated someone is but it is that liberation that leads them to have difficulty with maintaining commitments.

Yet another example is when you fall for someone who is deeply sensitive but your actions, which you thought were benign, are actually causing them major discomfort.

This is the reality of getting close to someone. You realize that there are pros and cons to literally every personality trait. Some won’t bother you, but some will.

You can try and hack it so that you get with someone who cannot upset you, but you will fail just like…